Are you the result of your choices or circumstances?
I grew up in a physically abusive home. I was frequently beaten up for my poor academic grades. Based on my circumstance, I should have been a timid person with low self-esteem. In fact, that was me in the beginning. In school, I was always a wallpaper. I did not want to be noticed because I was afraid of how others might think of me. Now I can speak in front of thousands of people almost effortlessly.
So how did I come this far?
For years, I acted as a victim of my situation, instead of taking responsibility to shape my future. I started to let what others say about me dictate what I said and saw about myself. I have now come to the realisation that every decision or choice I make is subtly shaping my future. J. K. Rowling was right when she said that your choices show far more who you truly are than your abilities or even circumstances.
Create The Life Your Really Want
" The ability to succeed and create the life you really want has always been a choice and not some random event. We are not just actors on a stage reading lines; we can write our lines as we go."
Imagine having a boss who is constantly picking on you. You have colleagues that constantly doubt your abilities to perform your job well so much that you are even start to distrust your own abilities. Now, you can choose to believe them, take the easy road and be a victim or you can trust yourself and leave the doubters to dust. Think about how you would respond to people who make you feel small. Why should you give up your power to them?
So now it comes down to one thing. Who or what defines you? Is it your education? Does that limit you? I used to think I would never amount to anything because I did not have a degree. Even that in itself, is a belief I choose to take on. Is that true that you are not smart enough to have a degree or become a successful entrepreneur? Is that really true, or did you just choose not to do the work? And just so you know, there are millions of ways to add to your abilities and they do not all come with huge or scary price to pay. Have you thought about seeking a mentor or applying for apprenticeship? Most of my mentors come in form of their books, biographies, blogs and youtube videos. Have you even explored your talents to find out where your aptitude lies?
I think it's important for all of us to be fully aware of our choices everyday. Had I taken on the victimised choices of my circumstances, I would not be where I am today. Start observing the choices you make. From the food that you eat, to the people you choose to surround yourself with, to the task you choose to do. Are you making choices that limit you or does it empower and nurture you. We spend most of our life at work (somewhere between 20 to 65) and only about 82% of people live till 65 years old, so make your everyday choices count and full of hopes.
What choices would you make if you focus on hopes?
Have you made hope-based choices before and how did it turned out?
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Winston Yap is a serial entrepreneur from Singapore. Having started his career with family debt. He raise himself from rock bottom to building multiple million dollar businesses. His online business expanded to 60 countries and generated over 60 Million USD in revenue. Now he spends most of his time with his 3 daughters and his beautiful wife while occasionally empowering other entrepreneurs so succeed.